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The downside of social media
Jan 31st
Every week I go to #evfn and gather with 20-30-40 people. The body count differs every week but there’s a core group. Some people come and go and some come back every time.
The problem is I don’t like every one of them, and I’m sure there are some that don’t like me. For the sake of the social situation we appear friendly at best and civil if there’s a real dislike. I think I can tell when someone doesn’t like me and I give them plenty of space.
The thing is, I really don’t want to hurt your feelings even if we didn’t click. Not every has to like everyone else. We’re not in kindergarten, we’re adults and we should realize and recognize when we aren’t connecting.
There are a couple of people who attend I actively dislike. There’s no hope for a connection or friendship and I can’t even be civil to them, but they still seek me out for conversation. Get a couple of drinks in me and I get downright rude. So far I’ve held my nasty comments, but should I? Are we required (as adults) to be at the very least civil to those who completely irritate or worse, creep us out?
What’s the best way to let someone know they should avoid you without being the real downer in a social group situation? Some people are so obtuse. I could be really nasty (which is my instinct) but then I’m the group bitch. While I’m naturally going to be a bitch, I don’t want to be THE BITCH.
By the way, don’t respond with a bunch of whiny “is it me?” shit. If I talk you you, I like you. If I smile politely and nod for short conversations but don’t hang around, we’re not connecting. If I see you coming and head the other way, duh-you.
Where am I?
Jan 7th
Do you prefer Brightkite, Gowalla or FourSquare?
What am I talking about? There are applications to keep track of where your friends are and to let them know where you are. Hey, sometimes you’re hanging out somewhere and you think, “maybe a friend would drop by and hang out with me if they only knew where I was!” Voila! Or if you’re meeting up with a group they can see who is already there.
I use FourSquare because it let’s you sort of compete with your friends and earn points and mayorship of places, stuff like that. But if a place isn’t already in their database you have to manually enter it, which is a pain in the ass on your phone. Asking a business what their complete address is so you enter it right, and then making sure you spell and get the name perfect? Nope.
So then I turn to Brightkite because it pulls it’s information from google. You can almost always find where you are with few clicks. But there’s no extra incentive.
I’ve noticed people using Gowalla, which seems like a combination of both. A searchable database of locations so you don’t have to enter the information yourself AND points and great icons and it says you get perks from the places you visit. I dunno.
And all these link with your twitter/facebook so you can get the information out instantly. I think they all have regular text access too so you don’t need a fancy phone for them.
So before I sign up for Gowalla I thought I’d check with you. Which do you prefer?
November is booked.
Oct 14th
Oh. My. Shit.
I have a ton of stuff to do in November.
- Ignite Phoenix 5 (Tuesday Nov 3 – 6:00pm – 9:00pm)
Tickets, hashtag: #ignitephx
Tempe Center for the Arts – map
- WordCamp Phoenix (Friday Nov 13 – 8:00am – 5:00pm)
Register, hashtag: #wcphx
Arizona Grand Resort – map
- PodCampAz (Sat-Sun Nov 14 – 15)
Register, hashtag: #podcampaz
University of Advancing Technology – map
There’s #evfn every Friday night, recording for Evo @11 every week, Max is due home November 19th at midnight, and Thanksgiving is the 26th. Sometime in there I’m expecting a special guest, too.
