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An open letter to the father of my children
Dec 9th
WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU!!!!????!!!!!
Dude, you’re screwing this up.
Shall I go back to your only granddaughter’s birthday party you didn’t bother to attend?
Or that your daughter wanted to spend some time with you on her 18th birthday and you were too busy? The whole fucking weekend? And then you send her a birthday card in the goddamn mail. A birthday card. You live less than 5 miles away and you couldn’t be bothered to make time for her?
SHE WAS CRUSHED!
You know how sensitive she is. And yet you not only send a stupid card with an old dead $20 bill, you sign it from both you and your new girlfriend. Whom she’s barely met. The same woman you once put on the phone to berate your daughter for something that had nothing to do with her. Beyond tacky.
You can’t take the time to drop in to her work (do you even know where she works now?) or make a date or get together in some way?
I know you’re still bitter but you remember those classes we had to take (and you really should know this without a class) where they EMPHASIZED you don’t take your ex-spouse feelings out on your kids. EVER!
I don’t trash talk you to the kids, I do it elsewhere. Wish I could say the same for you. You want to know why they barely talk to you? Think about it. You’re doing this to yourself. I encourage them to call you, to try and make plans because it’s the right thing to do. But when you do bother to answer the phone, you’re either too busy to make a date or you trash me. Fucking get over it and try, TRY to be a father.
Do you even care your son is back in Iraq? Did you make any effort when he was here? Have you made any effort at ALL with any of them? And to keep trying, considering they barely had a relationship with you when we were together.
It’s not their place to make the effort. You’re their father. It’s your fucking JOB!
Well, I sure hope you’re enjoying whatever it is you are doing. It ain’t parenting.
Why isn’t the world right?
Dec 6th
I don’t want anything special from anyone, I just want stuff to be done the way it’s supposed to be done.
Our child support check is a week late so far. I don’t know if it’s because of the company he works for screwing up or if it’s the government agency that forwards it to my account. It’s bullshit either way. Court ordered automatic deduction electronically deposited into my account. How frakking hard can it be? Seems like every time there’s a holiday the ball gets dropped and we get screwed.
Shit.
I hadn’t heard anything from the body shop about the Freelander, so I called them yesterday. More bullshit.
Shorthand:
I wish I could take away the hurt
Nov 18th
Your child turns 18 and what do you do? Maybe a party, maybe not. At least a dinner celebration? A gift or two? 18 is a pretty big deal, right?
I gave Ginnie my ring that I’ve had forever. My ring to her – meaningful.
I bought her the t-shirt she really wanted so she’d have at least one present to unwrap.
I paid for and went with her for her first tattoo. Again, what she really wanted.
She wanted to have a meal with her father. She wanted to spend time with him on her birthday. Was he available? No. “Work” and then some other reason (blamed on me) that he couldn’t take the time. He hasn’t bothered to call her since. In today’s mail was a birthday card and $20.
She’s crushed. Not so much about the $20, but because a card pretty much shows her what she means to him.
She told me yesterday that she’s afraid to call him because all he does is bitch about me. You know, he took the same so-called parenting class I did before we divorced. #1 RULE IS DON’T INVOLVE THE KIDS IN YOUR ISSUES!
I can’t believe I spent most of my adult life with this man. If he doesn’t reach out to these kids pretty soon (and do it without trashing me) he’s going to lose them. I don’t think Max gives a damn any more, Casey and Ginnie mostly avoid calling him because of how he talks about me . . . and can’t just get over it all. He’s got a woman living with him! How does SHE put up with this hate and anger?
All I can say to Ginnie is that I love her and someday he’ll be sorry he treated the kids this way. It’s all his choice. I’m not doing anything to make matters worse (though I seem to get blamed for everything anyway) and I’m certainly not going to do anything to help him out. He’s sinking all on his own.
