People are stupid
Raising Arizona Wussies
Mar 3rd
Wandering through meetup.com’s groups this morning and came across this bunch (emphasis mine):
Meet other parents who are supporters of Breastfeeding, Gentle Discipline, Child Led Weaning, Cloth diapering, Homeschooling, Babywearing, or Co-sleeping all are welcome here.We will have meet ups in Mesa, Chandler, Tempe, Phoenix, and Scottsdale. We ask that you always be respectful of the way that others parent.
Reason you have to put that disclaimer in your description? Because experienced parents know how stupid you all are! The title of the group should be How To Get Your Kid Beat Up and subtitled Or How To Raise A Columbine Killer!
What the fuck is babywearing?
I’ve been around parents who gently discipline. Those are the kids that are plowing over your kid in the play area or taking his stuff. The “Mummy” gently and in a baby voice says shit like, “no no darling, mummy asked you nicely to stop doing that. Do you want to have to do a time-out? Hmmm?” about 12 times instead of snatching their little brat up and giving him what for.
*sigh* I suppose it’s better than so-called parents who don’t do anything at all but yell at their spawn like they’re dogs.
How to be a good parent? Pay attention! That’s it. Pay attention. Be in the moment with your kid as often as possible, but also teach them that they aren’t the center of the universe. Do what you have to do – which teaches them there’s a time and place and right now you have to do the dishes or make dinner or make this business call, but when that’s done – focus on the kid for an equal amount of time! That’s all they want. Intermittent amounts of undivided attention. They want to know when they need you you’ll be there. Kids are whiny because they know you’re not really paying attention. They whine so you’ll hear them when you come out of your fog.
My disclaimer: My kids were great kids. Polite and well-behaved in public, fun on the playground, popular in school, happy well-adjusted little people. I’ve no idea what happened when they hit late teens and had all that trouble. I wish I had insight into that. Maybe raising non-wussies meant they weren’t afraid to try things they really shouldn’t have tried. But they’re doing well now. One is a single-parent raising a daughter of his own, another just discharged from the Army after two tours in Iraq and the third just moved out on her own.
Sack up and take the hit
Feb 24th
When I was younger if a woman liked sex and had a lot of it men were quick to label her a nympho as if having a healthy sex drive needed some sort of mental illness diagnosis. There’s always been that double-standard I never understood. Men were encouraged to follow their natural inclination (as long as it was hetero of course) but if a woman did she was aberrant. So-called decent women called her a whore unless by some chance she acted as if she couldn’t control herself, then she was pitied and called a nympho though still looked down on.
The world turns and now there’s this new fake label. Married men who cat around on the side suddenly have this new diagnosis to call on. They can’t help themselves! They have a sex addiction! Instead of taking responsibility for their actions, they do this OH POOR ME bullshit. Kobe, Duchovny, Charlie Sheen – the sex addiction diagnosis excuse was made for rich fuckers to let them off the hook.
I didn’t really care about Tiger’s infidelities. That’s between him and his wife. Okay, the shear amount of women might be gossip-worthy but it was never a News story. I figure eventually Tiger’s sex life will be a joke and his golf career will be back on track. Maybe his endorsements will suffer which in my mind is wrong. I’m tired of people dictating what other people’s morals should be but that’s not the focus of this post.
What impressed me most, and makes me believe that he should be… excused… not really the word I want but it’ll do for now – is his apology. He takes responsibility for his behavior. He never once mentions being out of control or not being able to reign himself in. He felt entitled – which is understandable considering his life. Hopefully it’s all sincere. Hopefully for his wife they can come to an understanding for their children. I certainly wouldn’t take him back, but that’s me.
And I really liked his chiding the paparazzi about harassing his family. I completely agree with him. Any photographer who chases a child should die a painful death. Any stupid person who gives money to those who pay the paparazzi should lose all their belongings to a freak tornado.
Seriously, why is the sex life of someone you’re not married/committed to so important to other people?
It’s all about choice. The spouse has no choice, the child has no choice, but if someone chooses to plow the field they should accept responsibility for what comes up and that should stay between him/her and the people who they betray.
But if you’re not in a relationship, if there is nobody to betray – whats wrong with having sex with as many people as you want? So what?
What’s the next big excuse?
Feb 8th
A man cheats on his wife.
A man comes home from work every day and sucks down a case of beer.
A woman spends most of her spare time and money on drugs.
A priest can’t resist molesting altar boys.
Personally, I find it hard to believe people can’t control themselves. I don’t believe in an addictive personality. It’s all in your head and you can control yourself. Calling it an addiction and going to some lame group so you can all whine and hold each others hands is just an excuse for being weak.
Diagnosed? Give me a fucking break. “He can’t help it, he’s an addict.” Fuck that. Blah blah blah. Take responsibility and stop acting like you didn’t MAKE THE FUCKING CHOICE every day to take that drink or smoke that cigarette or touch that child or cheat on your wife or sit on your ass and eat cake.
Calling it an addiction and going to rehab is just you being a pussy. If you can’t control yourself do the rest of us a favor STFU. We’re sick of your excuses. And if you’re out there hurting people, DIE.
And fucking around on your spouse doesn’t make you a sex addict. I makes you an asshole.
The minute you call something an addiction, people start to think it’s okay and the action becomes excusable. Saying someone can’t help themselves is giving them a free pass to continue that behavior. It used to be a disgraceful thing to be a drunk and now people accept that it’s an illness. Illness? I wonder how people with cancer feel about drunks screaming illness. How soon will the other addiction/illnesses become acceptable because they supposedly can’t help themselves? And now every abhorrent behavior is getting their own diagnosis/excuse. What isn’t mental illness/chemical imbalance/NOT RESPONSIBLE? Bullshit.
Yes, I was a smoker. I’ll be the first to admit I had a hard time quitting. But I take responsibility for every cigarette I smoked. I don’t blame the cigarettes or other smokers or advertising or peer pressure, I blame my own weakness. The same for cheesy food and desserts. I like the taste of these things and I need to convince myself they’re bad for me. I take responsibility for everything I choose to stuff in my face. I drink weekly, but I could stop right now and never drink again. I get depressed but I don’t suffer from depression. I used to have mood swings but I’m not bi-polar.
Normal person who makes bad choices here. What about you?